The 1980s was a decade filled with iconic music, neon fashion, and the rise of the personal computer. But it was also a time when parenting styles were evolving, and the concept of “love” could take on various forms. For some, the 80s brought with it the feeling of not being loved and experiencing rejection, especially from mothers. In this blog, we’ll explore the complexities of 80s parenting and the emotional toll it has taken on countless individuals, with references to historical context and personal experiences.

The 1980s marked a period of significant change in parenting norms. As dual-income households became more common, latchkey kids emerged, often coming home to empty houses after school. The absence of parents during crucial hours contributed to feelings of neglect and rejection for some children.

The 80’s marks a time characterized by the Influence of the “Me Generation”: The “Me Generation” mentality, characterized by self-focus and career-driven aspirations, had a profound impact on parenting. Parents were often more occupied with their own lives and ambitions, which could lead to emotional neglect and a sense of rejection for children.

The 1980s saw evolving roles for mothers, with an increasing number entering the workforce. While this was a significant step toward gender equality, it could sometimes result in a lack of emotional connection between mothers and their children, leading to feelings of unmet love and rejection.

The introduction of technology, such as personal computers and video games, offered both entertainment and distraction for children. While these innovations had their merits, they could also contribute to children feeling disconnected from their parents.

Experiencing a lack of love and emotional support from a parent can have long-lasting effects. In the 80s, as in any era, individuals coped with these feelings in different ways. Some sought solace in friendships, while others turned to self-help books and therapy. Some still try to cope with feelings of disconnect and feeling unlovable due to parents not evolving and still being stuck in this way of life. 

While the 80s may have left scars for some, it’s important to note that healing is possible. Seeking professional counseling and building supportive relationships can help individuals process their feelings of rejection and not feeling loved.

The 1980s were a time of change in parenting norms and family dynamics, which could result in feelings of not being loved and rejection, especially from mothers. While the era had its unique challenges, it’s crucial to remember that healing and personal growth are attainable. By seeking support and understanding the factors at play, individuals can navigate the complexities of their past and move toward a brighter future.

References:

  1.     “The ’80s: In Search of a New Identity,” The Atlantic. [https://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2016/03/the-80s/426855/]
  2.     “The Me Generation,” Time Magazine. [https://time.com/3185939/the-me-generation/]
  3.     “Feminism and Motherhood in Western Europe, 1890-1970,” Routledge.
  4.     “How 1980s Technology Changed Our Lives,” BBC. [https://www.bbc.co.uk/bitesize/guides/zpxj92p/revision/7]
  5.     “Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents” by Lindsay C. Gibson, Psy.D.
  6.     “Recovering from Rejection: The Painful Journey to Healing,” Psychology Today. [https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-couch/202007/recovering-rejection-the-painful-journey-healing]